Time management fundamentals – daily, weekly, monthly planning; vision work; accountability systems; priorities—remain the same over time. But over the last quarter century our collective view of time mastery shifted.
Your passion for family time prompted you to organize your business around your kids, spouse, etc. You cherished the flexibility to juggle things and the freedom not to miss those important events. But is that really how it has turned out?
The Call to Selfishness
When you took that first decisive stride from the “mom land” to “mompreneur land”, your life changed. You chose to make time for both your home and business priorities.
And when there are inevitable clashes, you may hear the whisper or the roar, “You’re being selfish!”
But the truth is you must be selfish—and assertive—to be successful in business and in life. You must be selfish in a healthy way.
Women, particularly religious women, often shy away from pursuing higher goals because of the inevitable strain between home and work demands combined with perceived limited resources. Consciously or unconsciously you may believe going for or acknowledging what you want leads to selfishness.
This fear of becoming “selfish” can be so big that many closet Catholic mompreneurs never “come out”.
But will your mom biz make you selfish?
Allison Sutton, a Life and Leadership Coach, says “no”. She always begins her work with her clients by asking, “What do you want?”
If you know what you want and go for what you want, you may feel confused if that is inconsistent with being Catholic. It may feel more like the world’s message to get what you want without regard to how that affects others.
Because of Original Sin, we must be vigilant about putting our desires ahead of God’s will and the needs of others.
But a regular prayer and sacramental life flushes out what is healthy selfishness from what is not healthy.
In digging deep to see if your fears of unhealthy selfishness are valid you must access the core DNA of who your Creator made you to be.